Farah Khan Ali's Blog
Had to share! Amazed by the Holy Quran and its verses. Every time I read it, the clearer it gets. Amused by religious bigots/fanatics who twist words in the Quran to suit their purpose as well as ignorant people of other faiths who criticise Islam because they know not better. The only religion/faith according to the Quran is the “belief in God” and one may have end number of names for this be it addressed as the “Universe” “Energy”, “Creator”, “Force” , “Bhagwan”, “Allah” and many other such names. Also the most widely misused word “Kafir” according to the Quran is one who “shields the truth” or one who “denies the truth” and not one who does not follow the Islamic faith.
Please do read Chapter 74, verse 8, translation note 4 on Kafir. Do also read verse 11, translation note 5 that forbids any human from punishing another being for his disbelief in God (those that deny the truth). No one is God, neither must they assume they are all righteous.
We are humans. We will fall, we will falter yet we must look out for each other and protect ourselves and our planet and not lose ourselves to mutual hostility that is based on superficial differences of religion, race, nationality, caste, creed etc.
In the end to the grave we must return and we shall be remembered by our deeds not our differences.
-Farah Khan Ali
I always thought that Emails/SMS/BBMs were supposed to make communication faster and thus save TIME..Ironically because we have more “time on hand” the very thing we hope for, is a luxury only a lucky few can afford or do possess.
My life is always hectic and I think I am somewhat accustomed to the crazy pace by which I live my life…I feel “alive” when on the move and miserable when doing nothing…and yet I keep saying I would love to go on a holiday far far way where there is just me and mother nature, though frankly I really don’t know if I would be able to survive the being alone part…
Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room’s only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation.
Every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.
The man in the other bed began to live for those one-hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside.
The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.
As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.
One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man couldn’t hear the band – he could see it. In his mind’s eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.
Days and weeks passed.
One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.
As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.
Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed.
It faced a blank wall. The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window.
The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall. She said, “Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.”
There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations.
Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled.
If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can’t buy.
Yesterday I was asked the most unusual question ” Why is it that some people are born rich and some people are not”? As i struggled to answer that question I actually asked my self “Are there some questions we don’t know the answer to or is it that just because a question does not have a definite answer it is something we pass off as saying its due to Destiny, Karma or Chance…..
I was born with a golden spoon in my mouth and my childhood life could not have been any better, though I do remember the one thing my father kept telling me as a child…He used to say “I may not leave you a legacy behind but if you educate yourself you would have inherited more than what I can ever provide you with”. At that time i did not fully understand his wise words to me and finished school and college obediently with obvious lack of interest in what I was doing..
The truth is that we live in a country where the education system maybe great but does not provide you with enough knowledge or guidance as far as career choice..It is presumed that if you do BSC you shall become a Doctor, Lawyer etc, if you do BCom you will do Business and if you do BA you would choose something in the creative world..thats it….No-one informs you about the career choices that exist and how to go about it..It is assumed you will eventually choose after you have scored the required marks ranging in their 80s and 90s.
Having completed my college and with stars in my eyes it was more a question of now what??? Did not want to act, had tried interior designing as my mother was a renowned interior designer, even tried ad film and television production but some how I had yet not found my calling and my parents were seriously worried for me as they believed that as a woman I needed to have a career of my own.
Opportunity came knocking at my door when a friend of mine was going to the US of A for a course in Gemology and asked if I wanted to come along. Frankly I had never heard of the term “Gemology” and to me the opportunity to “party” in LA was more appealing than the studying part of it, so I jumped at the idea. My goal was off course was to have fun during the time I spent there….nothing less..
After convincing my father that this was what I really wanted to do by promising him I would top my class, I boarded my flight to Los Angeles the city of fun, glamour, sun, sea and beaches…I just wanted to get away from Mumbai as fast as I could…
But as they say, someone up there had other plans for me and as I learned on the first day of my class, that “Gemology” was the study of the chemical, optical and physical properties of 99 minerals and their gemstone varieties. I was in total shock as it involved all the sciences in school i despised like chemistry, physics and even mathematics…. There went my party plans…Having made a promise to my dad and wanting to live up to it no matter what I ended up becoming the “Indian Nerd” instead of the “Party Animal I hoped I would be….
My hard work and determination eventually paid off and I topped my class with 97%. which I eventually followed up with a jewellery design course after which I returned to India. That, was the start of my career as a Jewellery Designer.
Don”t know if I would call my career pure chance, fate or my destiny but not being from a jewellery family I had to struggle very hard to make myself be known. The only thing that kept me going was my drive and passion to succeed no matter what it took…Initially there was a lot of curiosity from the people at large as I was the first person to actually be known as a “Jewellery Designer” in the Indian Market since the concept did not exist. Off course being from a Bollywood Family helped open inroads initially but it was my work eventually that made people keep coming back. No one is going to come back to buy your jewellery even if you are “the Queen of England” unless your product is good.
Those days I struggled hard to make a name as I wanted to do it on my own,..my way. My Parents had provided me the “know with it all” and I had to now find my way. Being Young and wanting to stand out among the hordes of jewellers who dominated the market those days was not an easy thing. For a start I had no investment of my own to begin with so I began working on creating designs on paper that were breath-takingly beautiful. I spent hours sketching, rendering and painting life into each piece of jewellery because I needed people to see my concepts on paper before I could make the actual jewellery. They say hard work pays and I had many customers who placed orders on my sketches believing that the actual piece would look close to the rendered design. If it had not been for those customers who placed their implicit faith in me I don’t think I would have been where I am today..I also learnt in the bargain that in order to sell something across you need to believe in yourself first and then your product for only then can you make someone believe in you.
Creating the FARAH KHAN FINE JEWELLERY Brand has not been an easy one and I have faced a lot of obstacles along the way but I stuck to my beliefs and my brand philosophy for Branding is all about Image projection. You only get ONE chance and you cant afford to mess that up. When I look back I have erred and corrected but I am proud of my body of work for I dream and then work towards making that dream a reality.
I am never content with what I have achieved and know that I can scale greater heights and thatis what I intend to do. I may have been brought up in the lap of luxury but had I not worked towards my goal and put in the effort required to achieve I would have been an ordinary rich spoilt brat wasting my life doing lunches with bored socialites discussing the weather, the handbags, shoes and clothes that one possessed.
I thank you Dad for giving me the opportunity to Educate myself and always pushing me forward. I thank you for not making it easy for me, for if it were I may not have valued my success as much as I value it now. And YES you have left me with an immeasurable treasure trove of talent & confidence in myself. The confidence to climb a mountain, to conquor new goals, to strive harder and push beyond ones limits and if that is what I can term my “destiny” then I would have to say it was well worth the EFFORT I put into it.
It’s not where you are born…It’s what you make of your life…I have seen the rich squander away their legacy and have seen the poor man make history….Carve your own destiny…Only YOU can..
I made mine……
Never imagined that my penchant for tweeting would actually land me a professional job out of it..Last week I represented Wills Lifestyle as their “twitter face” for Wills Lifestyle India Fashion Week in Delhi which is the largest fashion trade fair in Asia. My stint in Delhi from March 24th – March 28th would involve me tweeting live from the venue as the models sashayed down the ramp wearing fabulous designer wear.
Am back today and have to say that the event was more than just glamorous…Wills Lifestyle along with FDCI (Fashion Design Council of India) had done a tremendous job in putting up magnificent stalls, sets as well as lounges at the venue in the NSIC grounds..The first day was full of problems and all shows did not take off due to permission problems with the fire department, but the next day more than made up for it. Dressed to the hilt in designer wear by my friends Nandita Mahtani & Manav Gangwani, I would rush early to the venue in the morning to “tweet” about the action inside the venue as well as the attractive people who made their way there. Posing for my photographer friends initially was delightful but as the day wore, I would tire of the constant flash of cameras….
I did encounter some network problems initially but in order to keep my tweeple happy, I would keep running in and out of the media room to upload pictures of the event. On the days the network worked I would “tweet live” from the front row while the shows were being held and by now had got immune to the stares of people that came my way each time I pulled out my Blackberry to take a picture and then start typing text into my phone so I could update my followers of the events of the day.
My favourite shows would have to be the Fiama Di Wills show with Namrata Joshipura and Pia Flemming as well as the Wills Grand Finale show with Rajesh Pratap Singh. Of the newer lot of designers I loved Pankaj & Nidhi as well as Charu Parashar. Amit Aggarwal of Morphe was one of my personal favourites and I loved the way he structured the clothes all devoid of embellishments. Rohit Gandhi & Rahul Khanna of Cue as well as Gaurav Gupta showcased a fabulous collection as usual. Label by Ritu Kumar designed by her son Amrish was very chic, and cutting edge where he had made use of bandhni to create western wear. My personal friend Nandita Mahtani’s show was very glamorous and well attended and had her boyfriend actor Dino Morea sit in the front row cheering her. Nandi’s clothes are feminine, flirty, and fun and very wearable and I always enjoy wearing them.
A beautiful row of Auto Rikshaws were on display and designed by various prominent artists of India. Sunil Sethi the Chairman of FDCI told me that these “Rikshaws” were for auction and all the proceeds were to go to the organisation “Khushi”.
All in all the event was a well organised one as usual and as one passed through the never ending rows of designer stalls, one could not help but stop to shop.
My best experience of the WIFW was meeting up with my “Tweeple” who had won invites to attend the shows each day. I was truly humbled by their love, genuineness and warmth towards me and will always cherish that moment forever…Thank you Tweeps…you made me being there even more worth it…
My “Tweet” experience was a fabulous one and Wills Lifestyle along with the FDCI took great care of me. I am back now but miss the lovely people I interacted with during my time there and hope we always remain in touch…
Untill then…Tweet away ha ha ha
As a jewellery designer I have always dressed and styled others paying least attention to myself so when I was nominated and won the DNA style Awards for Society’s most Stylish Swan Award recently, it was a bit of a surprise to me for I never expected it. My personal Style statement has always been at the nth hour where I grab anything that catches my fancy and throw it on comfort being the highest priority so imagine my shock when I heard my name as the winner. I guess Style is an attitude and it is the confidence you wear that matters rather than the clothes itself.
The year has begun on a High note with the Lions Club Award for Best Jewellery Designer and now this for Stylish Society Swan. Hope the rest of the year is full of pleasant surprises too. Have been busy as a bee working on a very exciting project that is going to take alot of my time in the near future and I pray that all the hard work is worth it….
They say that nothing succeeds like success itself and that Luck is being at the right place at the right time fully prepared for the opportunity coming your way…Im prepared and rearing to go….
The recent Controversy with Shah Rukh vs the Sena over his comments on Pakistani cricketers has only succeeded in UNITING the Country more. Sometimes they say out of every bad there comes a good. I applaud Shah Rukh for not budging and buckling under the pressure to apologise to the Sena even after they threatened him with dire consequences of not allowing his film “My Name is Khan” to release if he did not.
In the world we live in today it is very important to take a stand and have an opinion or the whole concept of Democracy would have failed. One must let their voice be heard. To live in a narrow minded world is like living life as a myopic man who does not want to believe that there is a world out there just because he cant see it…The time has come to get rid of divisive politics and the people who propagate it. Hate has never achieved anything in the past and never will in the present.
I stood by Shah Rukh not because he is known to me or a personal friend but because I believe he truly meant no harm to the nation by praising Pakistani cricketer’s based on their merit. That does not mean that our Indian Cricketer’s are not good or better.
We must remember that the same man who the Sena called “traitor” is one of the many iconic men in India who helped make Brand India Global. Ironically he also represented India at the NASDAQ recently. To question Shah Rukh Khan’s “Indianness” is hilarious because he is as Indian as can be.
“JAI HIND” not Jai Maharashtra, Jai Bihar, Jai Punjab, Jai UP, Jai Andhra, Jai Tamilnadu, Jai Gujarat, Jai Kerala, Jai Rajasthan etc. We can only make a difference if we don’t see differences in ourselves. One India, One People, One Motherland, and One thought that “I am INDIAN first”
The ANTHEM of every Indian should be….
My religion is HUMANITY,
My nationality INDIAN,
My philosophy is “LOVE” NOT hate.
And when “the POWER of LOVE” overcomes the “LOVE for POWER”, I guess we shall achieve Peace and Unity.
I also took part on a show called WE THE PEOPLE by Barkha Dutt on NDTV 24×7. The show dealt with Mumbai for all Indians and Shahrukh & Sena controversy….It was heartening to see the audience think in the same thought. One for all and all for one and it is in moments like thease that I feel proud to be an Indian when “we the people” are not afraid to stand up together and let our voices be heard….
Photo Credit : Rahul Subramanian
This year begun with a happy note for me as I was the reciepient of 16th Lions Club Gold Awards for “Best Jewellery Designer”. It was indeed a special moment for me as veterans from the industry like Mr Bachchan (who won Best Actor), Dharmendra (who won lifetime award), Yash Chopra , and various others were present there. The icing on the cake was my husband Aqeel winning the award for “Best DJ” , So it was a double treat for us.
Also have started my fitness regime again and am feeling healthier and fitter. A healthy body is a healthy mind and there is so much one can do when one feels good
On the work front I am really excited with my new collection that should be out by next month. I am looking forward to it as this time I have experimented with one of a kind truly fabulous bejeweled pieces that will make an everlasting style statement. A medly of cocktail rings, animal motif designs as well as a mix of lustrous gemstones radiating their brilliance in precious and semi precious variety. Have to say that this collection of mine will be the best I have done so far. The colour palette is mainly Emerald green, Rubelite Deep Pink and Diamonds with South Sea Pearls
At the end of the month I will be in Ludhiana, for a jewellery exhibition and it will be my first time there. Am told it is a fabulous jewellery market.
Am also planning a jewellery exhibition in Coimbatore sometime in February this year and will let you all know closer to the date.
Have also been tweeting on Twitter and am a twitter addict. The people there who write in are so pure and full of love and good wishes, its hard to resist them and I enjoy replying to each one of them even though at times it does get time consuming. Never thought I would become so close to my twitter family especially to people I have never met or interacted with. I guess strangers can also become friends. Its amazing that even on the days I’m feeling low how quickly I recover and feel good with all the love my way. God bless my twitter family wherever they are and happiness always to them…
Photo credit : Vogue India
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It has been a never ending season of celebration especially this time of the year with Christmas and New years, not to mention the un-ending Birthday Bashes I have been attending of all my close friends. Even though my birthday is on Dec 28th, I am celebrating today as Muharram falls on that date this year. I have planned a huge bash tonight for my friends at my husband Aqeel’s new night club “HYPE” at Atria Mall in Worli. I am looking forward to tonight with anticipation and even though I complete a mile stone this year my friends have been told in jest that I am celebrating my 21st birthday. I am happier that my entire family which includes my parents, my sisters and their husbands, my brothers and their wives will all be present tonight along with my close friends. They say life begins at “40″ and I am looking forward to starting that phase of my life. My friends and people known to me say I should not shout out my age as I don’t look even close to it, but I say that why not – It’s nice to look younger when one is older and I take that as a compliment. Also If one had the acumen that one has now in our twenties, life would be a whole different ball game. I am proud of my achievements, and proud of all that has come my way.
As the year comes to an end, I thank the Almighty for all that he has bestowed upon me and look forward to the new year with humility and hope. I also wish that there is no hunger, poverty, sickness and unhappiness to anyone in the world and that 2010 brings world peace for god only knows how much we deserve it.
Happy New Year to all of you out there. May your wishes come true so wish wisely……